"How to Land Your kid in Therapy"

            People today are given a false sense of security when they are young that leads to more people in therapy as adults.  Parents have been much easier on their kids today giving them the life they always wanted, but sometimes are not able to let their kids fail, which gives their kids a false sense of security.  In “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy,” Lori Gottlieb discusses how parents today baby their children which causes problems with self esteem somewhere down the line.  Children are rewarded today for doing nothing, such as participation trophies in sports.  Children that are babied early on in life will not know how to deal with failure later on in life.

            As a referee for the past three years of my life I have first hand seen parents be overprotective and out of control.  I almost had to throw a parent out of a basketball game of six and seven year olds for being out of control.  Parents today have become way to controlling and see their kids in a light where they could never do anything wrong.  Rules have even changed dramatically in the past ten years when I went through the different sports programs for equality.  For example, in basketball our program director encourages us as refs to make sure that everyone has a chance to guard the best or tallest player so that they do not feel left out.  This rule comes from parents that feel their son is good enough to guard anyone on the court, when it can be completely demoralizing to a child if they just cannot stop the opposing player.  Also parents can get too involved with the coaches.  Most high school coaches now have to keep parents out of the gym so that they can coach the team their way and not be constantly criticized by parents.  Parents gotten way out of control when it comes to sports and need to let their son’s coaches and the refs take care of their children during the game.

            Parents also get out of control when it comes to school.  Whenever something goes wrong in school, some children have their parents come in and talk to the teacher, even in high school, about the problem, rather than learning how to deal with it themselves.  While parents need to stick up for their kids while they are younger, there comes a point in time when the child needs to learn how to deal with his own problems in school whether it is about grades or behavior.  Children should be able to deal with their own school problems on their own around junior high.  Also, with regards to in school bullying, some schools have implemented programs, like my grade school, where they hinder a child from knowing what is acceptable outside of school.  Schools nowadays are trying to protect people from being bullied rather than teaching them how to deal with it.  Parents now are trying to protect their children from problems rather than teaching them how to deal with their problems. 

            While there are parents that do baby their kids, there are still parents that know where to draw the line when it comes to protecting their kids or spoiling them my parents being one of those parents.  They taught me how to deal with situations in life rather than protecting me from them as a child.  Parents in this generation are starting to try and protect their kids from making the same mistakes, rather than teaching them, which leads to lower self esteem and can eventually land their kids in therapy.